009 – It’s Time to Stop Trying and Start Training

Apr 16, 2021

“Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly.” – 1 Timothy 4:7

After such incredible feedback and encouragement from all of you with the previous episode, How to Master the Mental Power Pillar of Our Lives, Rylee is running it back with another episode on mindset.

In this episode, you will learn

  • The one trait that successful people have.
  • Why you should stop trying and start training
  • How developing a game plan will help you complete your commitments

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[00:00:00] Successful people do consistently. What other people do occasionally and how does this happen? Consistency being consistent with consistency comes confidence. [00:00:15] And when we go back to this concept of trying versus training, this theology that we’ve just come to know, and as just like normal life, we’ve adopted this theology of trying.

[00:00:27] We’re trying not to worry. We’re [00:00:30] trying a diet, we’re trying to exercise. We’re trying to be a better husband or I’m trying not to lose my temper. Right. I just, I’m trying to be a better parent, but why aren’t they things changing? Why is it that I’m trying so hard, but nothing is [00:00:45] actually changing. And the reason is we’ve been trying for too long it’s time to stop trying and start train

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[00:01:57] Visit King’s counsel coaching.com [00:02:00] today to speak to one of our team members about how you can level up in all areas of your life today. All right, everybody. Welcome back to another episode of the Kings counsel podcast. I’m your [00:02:15] host Riley meek. And I wanted to do a followup episode this week regarding the mail until power pillar.

[00:02:22] As you know, within the King’s council, we talk about the five power pillars are mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, and financial power pillars. [00:02:30] Our belief, our philosophy that is if we can operate in excellence in all five of these areas, we can really learn to discover, develop, and ultimately deploy our God given gifts and abilities.

[00:02:40] And last week we really delve into the mental power pillar and we got some great [00:02:45] feedback on that. But one of the things we would kind of ended on was, was really this concept of, of being disciplined, right. Just having that mental discipline, because when we’re disciplined, we act according to our commitments.

[00:02:58] Versus when we’re not [00:03:00] disciplined, we tend to act in according to our feelings or how we’re feeling in that moment. And I wanted to just really expand on that and provide some application on what that really means or how can we develop that discipline. And it really brought me back to [00:03:15] first Timothy four seven in this concept of trying.

[00:03:19] Versus training. And this is one of the things that we coached on within the Kings council, um, about a month or so ago. And I thought this would be a great time to really just kind of revisit this or talk through what [00:03:30] this really means. Cause it, in first Timothy four seven, this is Paul, essentially speaking to Timothy and he says have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives tales, but rather train yourself.

[00:03:43] To be godly. And I [00:03:45] think so often, or really what we’ve just kind of allowed ourselves to adopt is this theology of trying versus training. And that’s what we’re going to dive in today on this episode, because so [00:04:00] many of us have this idea of, okay, I want to change my mindset. I want to develop these new neural pathways as we talked about on the last episode, but it’s like, how do I do that?

[00:04:09] Or how do I commit. To doing that because we’re going to look at commitment here and with God’s help. [00:04:15] Kay. That’s, that’s ultimately what we need here, but with God’s help, we’re going to be able to choose what we want most over what we want now. Right. And that’s kind of the art of having that discipline to the commitments that we we’ve actually made.

[00:04:29] Right. [00:04:30] Because it’s so easy. Why is it so easy for us to fall back into these old habits? We try so hard to change, but we just keep falling back into these old habits. And one of the verses [00:04:45] that again, always comes to mind. When I talk about trying versus training, it is first Corinthians and chapter nine.

[00:04:50] This is again, Paul. He asks this question, don’t you realize that in a race, everybody runs, but only one person gets the prize. Right? So if we’re going to [00:05:00] run, we got to run to win. All athletes are disciplined in their training for a prize that will fade away. But as followers of Christ, we do this for an E eternal prize.

[00:05:12] So when we run, it should be with [00:05:15] purpose in every step. And this is really the difference when we make that decision, that, that mindset shift that I’m going to succeed, whatever that success looks like successful people do [00:05:30] consistently. What other people do occasionally. And how does this happen?

[00:05:35] Consistency being inconsistent with consistency comes confidence. And when we go back to this concept of [00:05:45] trying versus training, this theology that we’ve just come to know, and as just like normal life, we’ve adopted this theology of trying. We’re trying not to worry. We’re trying a diet, we’re trying to exercise.

[00:05:59] We’re [00:06:00] trying to be a better husband or I’m trying not to lose my temper. Right. I just, I’m trying to be a better parent, but why aren’t things changing? Why is it that I’m trying so hard, but nothing is actually changing. And the reason is [00:06:15] we’ve been trying for too long it’s time to stop trying and start.

[00:06:20] Training. Right. Trying never achieves consistent results, but training does trying never changes anything [00:06:30] for the longterm. Right. Trying is an attempt to change. But with minimal commitment, let’s look a half-hearted attempt. Right. And at the end of the day, it really gives us that out that it actually implies that we plan to [00:06:45] fail.

[00:06:45] Or if we fail, at least we tried. Right. It’s like a, a hopeful experiment that we’re going through here, right? It’s this concept or this idea, or this hope, or this wish that we would just [00:07:00] desire to be better, but do we really desire to be better? And this is where the main difference between trying versus training, because training is not a hopeful experiment.

[00:07:11] It is a devoted commitment. [00:07:15] That’s ultimately driven by a deeper why right in the King’s council. This is why we internalize it. We would, we spend so much time on vision, but the only way to, for us to cast that, that true vision for our life is, is [00:07:30] to get our mindset right. Right. And this is why we developed these contracts.

[00:07:35] If you’re in the King’s council, you know what I’m talking about here. If you’ve seen us or been at any of our events, you hear people stand up and they, they make these declarations, these contracts that they’ve decided [00:07:45] who they are. Whether they’re they act in that way at all times, or not as irrelevant, but they’ve made that declaration that they are in continual training, that this is the man that I’m becoming.

[00:07:56] This is the woman that I’m becoming, right. We’re not trying [00:08:00] to have better relationships or a better marriage. Right. We are a great marriage in training training. Is that whole hearted commitment to achieve a specific result when we’re in training athletes, when they go into [00:08:15] spring training camp, right?

[00:08:17] They’ve got a game plan. They’ve got a strategy. They’re not just trying. They’re not trying to get to the we’ll use NFL, for example, they don’t go through the training camp trying, right. They’re in [00:08:30] training, they’re focused, they have intention. But when we’re trying, when the going gets tough, when it’s difficult, when we get tired, When we wake up on the wrong side of the bed, or we just don’t feel like it.

[00:08:43] We don’t have that [00:08:45] ultimate deeper commitment that Y that emotional feeling that’s going to resonate within us. That’s when we fall back into trying versus actually living a lifestyle or commitment that we are in constant [00:09:00] continual training. When we are training, we don’t act according to our feelings.

[00:09:08] We act according to our commitments again, when we’re in training, we do not [00:09:15] act according to our feelings. We act according to our commitments. So if we’re, if we’re trying to be that godly parent, right? If that’s the language pattern, this really does start, our mindsets actually influence the words that we [00:09:30] speak.

[00:09:30] Right? What we think about, we speak, what we speak. We tend to follow, and that ultimately leads us in the direction of our lives. Right. So if we have adopted this mindset of the sociology of trying, we’re not trying to be a better spouse or a godly [00:09:45] parent, right? We are in training. We are ambassadors of Christ in training, no longer trying, but we are in training to become the best versions of ourselves.

[00:09:56] If I’m choosing what I want most over [00:10:00] what I want now, if I’m going to make that declaration or that commitment, right. If I’m going to be disciplined in that, I’m not trying to become something different. I’m actually training to become more of what God has already said. [00:10:15] I am. If I am choosing what I want most over what I want now, I am not training to become something different.

[00:10:23] I want to make sure that that’s clear here. You’re not trying to become something different. You are in training to become more of [00:10:30] what God has already said. That you are back to first Timothy four seven, where Paul was talking to Timothy about becoming godly. He didn’t say try to become better. He said, train yourself to [00:10:45] be godly.

[00:10:45] So it’s time to stop trying and to start training. There’s no more half-hearted commitments with this. We are in training. So how do we train? How do we develop? Okay. We’ve got this mindset now. What does it [00:11:00] mean to actually train? What is training? Because training. If we look at like what training actually is, it’s doing what I can do today to an able me to do even more.

[00:11:14] Tomorrow, [00:11:15] it’s consistently doing what I can do today to enable me to do even more tomorrow. Right. If somebody asks me right now to go climb a mountain, it’s like, you’re out of your mind, right? Or, [00:11:30] or run a, an iron man or a marathon. Right. I might not be able to run a marathon today, but I could walk a mile.

[00:11:38] Right. If you’re looking at a mountain of debt, you might not be able. To get out of debt today, [00:11:45] but you can start to make wiser decisions, like not buying that cup of coffee, right? That’s the process of training, but it’s this philosophy that there’s no other desire. There’s not this ability that [00:12:00] if it doesn’t work, at least we tried, it is a whole hearted commitment to a new lifestyle.

[00:12:06] That you are taking on, right. Everything that we do in everything that we do, we are to do it as unto the Lord. So if we’re going to run [00:12:15] this race, why aren’t we running it to win? Why aren’t we choosing to when making progress? Why aren’t we achieving the goals that we want to achieve? And the real answer is, is we’ve just become accustomed to trying for too [00:12:30] long.

[00:12:30] It’s time to change the strategy here. We’re no longer in trying. We are going to start training and we do this by disciplining our bodies, like an athlete. Right. But if we go back to the first Corinthians nine [00:12:45] 24, right. And you extend that through 27, it’s disciplining our bodies like an athlete. Here’s the core of it.

[00:12:54] It starts with our identity. It starts with our identity who. Who did [00:13:00] God say we are? Who are we? Who are, who have we decided to be? And that really boils down to the core values that we have for our lives or the core values that we operate out of that allow [00:13:15] us to make decisions based upon our commitments.

[00:13:19] Not based upon how we feel in certain circumstances. Those all boil down to the core values that we have maybe for our marriage, the core values that we have for us individually, it [00:13:30] all boils back to those core values that we have our already decided to be. That’s how we can be committed. That’s how we can choose to have the disciplines that we need based upon the identity of [00:13:45] who we already are.

[00:13:47] It’s not about what we want to do. It’s about who we want to become in the process. When you know who you are. You’re able to know what to do [00:14:00] because you’re seeing yourself as that version. Right. When you’re, you’re trying, you’re hoping to become something that you’re not, when you’re trying, you’re hoping to become something that you are not, but when you’re training, You are becoming more [00:14:15] of what you already are.

[00:14:21] thanks for tuning in to this week’s episode of the Kings council podcast. For more information on the Kings council and becoming the CEO of your own life. [00:14:30] Visit Kings council coaching.com today, you can also follow us on Instagram. At King’s council coaching. We’ll see you next time. [00:14:45] .

 

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